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Unemployment: Her Point of View

Unemployment: Her Point of View

Recently, I shared the man's point of view when it comes to being unemployed. In this post, I want to share how the wife of an unemployed man feels when she's trying so hard to keep it all together.

Unemployment isn't just something that impacts the man of the house. It definitely takes a toll on the family, particularly the woman of the home.

Guys, if you're out of work and have stumbled across this post, my hope is that you'll have a better understanding for why your wife is behaving the way she does. It might be a good time to have a heart to heart with her and offer some reassurance because fear and uncertainty are the two greatest factors that fuel how she's feeling.

Unemployment: Her Point of View

  • She feels afraid. Afraid of not having enough money for groceries to feed the kids. Afraid of not having enough money to pay the mortgage. Afraid of not having enough money to keep the lights on.
  • She feels deeply concerned for her husband. She knows ...
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You’re Not Alone in Your Unemployment Fears

You’re Not Alone in Your Unemployment Fears

Every once in a while I have the honor of sharing real life experiences with you from the readers of UnEmployed Faith and from those who are part of the UnEmployed Faith Community.

The following guest post is from a sweet blogger friend who is living the anxiety of unemployment in her home right now.  I'm so grateful for her willingness to share her heart here.  I pray her words will bless you and everyone else who stumbles across this space.

Please welcome my friend Dawn, as she writes about the fact that you're not alone in your unemployment fears.

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Unemployment.

The very mention of the word can put a seed of fear into your heart, especially if life has taken you through joblessness in the past.

Our family is currently traveling that unemployed road for the second time during our marriage. I know very well the fear of the unknown and the uncertainty of the future.

Three years ago we had a healthy savings account, no debt and a good job.

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How to Love Your Husband Through Unemployment

How to Love Your Husband Through Unemployment

For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.  So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.  

~ 2 Corinthians 4:17-18

Experiencing trouble in life is not a new concept only relevant to our world today.  Pick up a Bible and read it for any length of time.  You're sure to see there are numerous stories of trial and tribulation throughout the pages of God's word.

God loves us, there's no doubt about it.  But He doesn't promise us a life that's always smooth and easy going.

If you've followed my writings at all, you already know my husband and I have endured many major life trials over the past decade.  All of which could have easily destroyed our marriage if we hadn't been vigilant in not letting that happen.

Most recently, he was unemployed for a very long, grueling three ...

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Do Not Grow Weary or Lose Heart

Do Not Grow Weary or Lose Heart

Suffering.

We all go through it at some time in our life.  For some of us, it happens more often than we'd prefer.

At a recent church event, I stood in front of a crowd of  women and shared my testimony.  My husband and I have been through an awful lot of trials over the past 13 or so years.  I knew it was a lot, but it wasn't until I stood there painting a picture of all of that emotion that it hit me just how much suffering we were, for whatever reason, chosen to endure.

In the midst of each trial, I know I struggled.  I know I spent a lot of time focusing on our problems and all of the what-ifs rushing through my fear-filled mind.

What I'm bothered by now as I'm looking back, is even though I knew in my heart God would protect us, provide for us, show us His miracles, and give us victory, I still spent far too much time meditating on my fears.

Instead, I should have been looking up at ...

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When Finding Inner Peace Seems Too Far Fetched

When was the last time you felt an unexplainable peace within?

It’s easy to become discouraged with life.

Everywhere we look, people are out of work, losing their homes, having financial difficulties, suffering depression, or are walking around with an endless grumpiness plastered across their face.  Maybe you're one of those people.

I struggle to watch the news anymore because the stories are so often horrifying.  Is this really what our world has become?

A world filled with judgement and hate?  Movie theater shootings?  Domestic violence?  Terrorist attacks?  Freedom of speech arguments over gay marriage?

How can anyone experience a sense of peace when our world is in such a state of dismay?

Friends, if you’re a believer, the Holy Spirit is inside of you and will grant you peace when you pray over it and spend time in the word of God.

When you ask in heartfelt prayer, the Holy Spirit will provide peace from a multitude of discouraging emotions and situations.

  • Peace from depression
  • Peace from fear
  • Peace from anxiety
  • Peace from resentment
  • Peace from doubt
  • Peace ...
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What I’ve Learned From My Husband’s Unemployment

Unemployment has impacted the lives of so many beautiful friends that I'm privileged to know or have met along the journey.  Today, I want to share with you the heart of my dear friend, Barbie of My Freshly Brewed Life.   She is simply amazing.   After reading about what she's learned from her husband's unemployment, be sure to click over and check out her fantastic blog.

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Today I am honored to be sharing here at Unemployed Faith. Thank you, Rosann, for the opportunity to share my heart with your readers.

I am the wife of a man who has been unemployed more often than not over the last 4 years. I wish I could say it hasn't changed me. But it has. I wish I could say that I've always kept the faith. But there were times when I had lost my hope. I wish I could say that I am more prepared for "the next time" should it happen again. But I am still learning to walk this long, and often lonely road.

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How NOT To Lose Sleep When You’re Stressed About Money

How NOT To Lose Sleep When You’re Stressed About Money

The light from the digits on your nightstand clock blare against your weary eyes.  Images of an eviction notice, piled-high envelopes stuffed with past due nasty grams, and thoughts of living in your car bounce chaotically through your mind.

You roll over to feel the warmth of your husband, but he's not there.  He can't sleep either.  Depression is taking hold of him.

Not helping matters is knowing you'll both enter the new day filled with anxiety, moodiness, headaches, reduced energy, and an inability to concentrate on any one thing for more than a few minutes.

If only the both of you could get a few restful nights of sleep.  Maybe…maybe then you'd be able to think clearly on how to approach the horror of unemployment.

Do You Suffer From Insomnia?

Studies show insomnia to be a common complaint among men and women, particularly those dealing with stress of unemployment or low income.  It's not healthy either.   If you don't resolve the problem soon, it can lead to serious health problems.

And let's face it, you have enough ...

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Waiting For Change

Waiting For Change

I was recently contacted by Christina McCale, Author of Waiting for Change: Impacts on life, family, work, and the new 99% reality, for an opportunity to read and write a review of her book.

What a fascinating and wonderful book!

In Waiting For Change, Christina shares the story and impact of unemployment in our current recession, while also reflecting back to our own U.S. history with The Great Depression of the 1930's.

Honestly, my favorite part of her book is not in the historical facts or the well researched statistics, although I know many would find those added elements to be quite interesting.

No.  What I loved most, was reading her very personal story.  I could just feel (or perhaps relate with) the raw emotion as her story unfolded.

For many of us whose lives have been severely altered by the recession and unemployment, knowing we aren't alone in our devastation somehow helps us cope through it.  Even though the unemployment numbers scream out that millions are unemployed, with our daily challenge to put food ...

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How To Fight Unemployment Related Depression

How To Fight Unemployment Related Depression

The news recently reported that 23 million Americans are currently unemployed or underemployed.  23 million people!!  Think about that number for a moment.  What's the population of the state you reside in?

Let me give you a quick population picture from the US Census Bureau (as of 2011), for you to compare that number to:

  • Pennsylvania - 12.7 million
  • Oregon - 3.8 million
  • Oklahoma - 3.7 million
  • Illinois - 12.8 million
  • Texas - 25.6 million
  • California - 37.6 million
  • New York - 19.4 million
  • Colorado - 5.1 million
  • Nevada - 2.7 million
  • Florida - 19 million

Are you in shock?  I am!  How many states listed above could add up to 23 million people out of work?  Look at the big states.  Nearly the entire state of Texas could fit the bill of 23 million unemployed.  Scary stuff!

If you or your spouse happen to be one of those 23 million Americans, please know my heart goes out to you, I'm praying for you, and I do understand what you're going through.

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In Awe Of What God Is Doing

Friends, God has been stirring me up a lot lately.  He's working in amazing ways with the mission of this website and with my book.  There have been many days recently where I've literally sat in awe at His hand over this ministry.   Only God!   This plan of His was so much greater than any idea I could have ever come up with on my own.

Here are a few God things I want to share with you:

Praying Him Through Unemployment - 6 Week Prayer Guide

I recently felt led by God to create this FREE downloadable resource for you.  There isn't much we, as wives, can do for our husbands when they are dealing with the emotional turmoil of being out of work.  We can't get them a job.  We can't pull them out of a deep depression.  We can't make them feel worthy.

But - we can pray for them.  And prayer is so so powerful.  I've put together this 6 week guide so it's easy for you to print out and keep ...

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