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What Life After Unemployment Looks and Feels Like

What Life After Unemployment Looks and Feels Like

It had been three years.

Three years!

Three years without any income at all -- well, except for those initial weeks of unemployment wages, which we were grateful for, but compared to the amount of debt we had and the cost of keeping a roof over our heads and our family fed, was barely a drop in the bucket of what we needed to survive.

So we burned through our savings account and every dime of our retirement plans.

Our financial position had gone from six-figure salary wealth to that of two kids straight out of high school with zero assets, when my husband finally got that long overdue phone call with an employment offer.

We rejoiced and thanked God for carrying us, for keeping our credit intact, and for keeping our marriage and our family together and stronger than ever.

Finally, our victory had come!

The thing is, life after unemployment is never quite the same as it was before unemployment.

In many ways, it's better!

Rebuilding is a slow and sometimes painful process.

Even though there's income ...

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You’re Not Alone in Your Unemployment Fears

You’re Not Alone in Your Unemployment Fears

Every once in a while I have the honor of sharing real life experiences with you from the readers of UnEmployed Faith and from those who are part of the UnEmployed Faith Community.

The following guest post is from a sweet blogger friend who is living the anxiety of unemployment in her home right now.  I'm so grateful for her willingness to share her heart here.  I pray her words will bless you and everyone else who stumbles across this space.

Please welcome my friend Dawn, as she writes about the fact that you're not alone in your unemployment fears.

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Unemployment.

The very mention of the word can put a seed of fear into your heart, especially if life has taken you through joblessness in the past.

Our family is currently traveling that unemployed road for the second time during our marriage. I know very well the fear of the unknown and the uncertainty of the future.

Three years ago we had a healthy savings account, no debt and a good job.

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Keeping the Peace While Living With Your In-Laws

Keeping the Peace While Living With Your In-Laws

From time to time I have the honor of sharing real life experiences with you from the readers of UnEmployed Faith and from those who are a part of the UnEmployed Faith Community.

The following guest post is just that. Real life. Written from a real person. Not a writer. Not a blogger. But a beautiful wife of a man who was unemployed. They have recently been blessed with a new beginning and new job!

Please welcome my dear friend, Elaine, as she shares her heart with you on keeping the peace while living with your in-laws. ...

“You’re crazy!”

“This won’t work!”

“They don’t like me!”

You may or may not speak these very words during unemployment or financial hardship if the subject of moving in with your in-laws ever comes up.

When we moved in with my in-laws it was rushed and not planned out. I don’t recommend moving in this way.

We had been having problems with our living situation and needed a place to go. My in-laws had suggested the move.  So ...

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How to Love Your Husband Through Unemployment

How to Love Your Husband Through Unemployment

For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.  So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.  

~ 2 Corinthians 4:17-18

Experiencing trouble in life is not a new concept only relevant to our world today.  Pick up a Bible and read it for any length of time.  You're sure to see there are numerous stories of trial and tribulation throughout the pages of God's word.

God loves us, there's no doubt about it.  But He doesn't promise us a life that's always smooth and easy going.

If you've followed my writings at all, you already know my husband and I have endured many major life trials over the past decade.  All of which could have easily destroyed our marriage if we hadn't been vigilant in not letting that happen.

Most recently, he was unemployed for a very long, grueling three ...

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Do Not Grow Weary or Lose Heart

Do Not Grow Weary or Lose Heart

Suffering.

We all go through it at some time in our life.  For some of us, it happens more often than we'd prefer.

At a recent church event, I stood in front of a crowd of  women and shared my testimony.  My husband and I have been through an awful lot of trials over the past 13 or so years.  I knew it was a lot, but it wasn't until I stood there painting a picture of all of that emotion that it hit me just how much suffering we were, for whatever reason, chosen to endure.

In the midst of each trial, I know I struggled.  I know I spent a lot of time focusing on our problems and all of the what-ifs rushing through my fear-filled mind.

What I'm bothered by now as I'm looking back, is even though I knew in my heart God would protect us, provide for us, show us His miracles, and give us victory, I still spent far too much time meditating on my fears.

Instead, I should have been looking up at ...

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Finding Joy In The Storm

Finding Joy In The Storm

Be joyful always. Pray continuously.  Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.

~1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

Recently, a child whom I had agreed to babysit for a few minutes before school, wandered through my home, quietly checking things out.

Having never been in our house and not knowing very much about us, she took notice of the full toy box in our family room, asked where the bathroom was, and seemed to hover around wherever I was. In the kitchen, she said "you have such a pretty house.  I love your kitchen."

My response was an embarrassed chuckle followed by, "thank you, but I don't really like the wallpaper…or the flooring…or this house." 

Then in the hallway, she said "I really like your house.  It's so big.  And you have a huge TV!"   I thought to myself that she should have seen the house I used to live in, which was gorgeous and enormous in comparison to this one.

When Finding Inner Peace Seems Too Far Fetched

When was the last time you felt an unexplainable peace within?

It’s easy to become discouraged with life.

Everywhere we look, people are out of work, losing their homes, having financial difficulties, suffering depression, or are walking around with an endless grumpiness plastered across their face.  Maybe you're one of those people.

I struggle to watch the news anymore because the stories are so often horrifying.  Is this really what our world has become?

A world filled with judgement and hate?  Movie theater shootings?  Domestic violence?  Terrorist attacks?  Freedom of speech arguments over gay marriage?

How can anyone experience a sense of peace when our world is in such a state of dismay?

Friends, if you’re a believer, the Holy Spirit is inside of you and will grant you peace when you pray over it and spend time in the word of God.

When you ask in heartfelt prayer, the Holy Spirit will provide peace from a multitude of discouraging emotions and situations.

  • Peace from depression
  • Peace from fear
  • Peace from anxiety
  • Peace from resentment
  • Peace from doubt
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What I’ve Learned From My Husband’s Unemployment

Unemployment has impacted the lives of so many beautiful friends that I'm privileged to know or have met along the journey.  Today, I want to share with you the heart of my dear friend, Barbie of My Freshly Brewed Life.   She is simply amazing.   After reading about what she's learned from her husband's unemployment, be sure to click over and check out her fantastic blog.

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Today I am honored to be sharing here at Unemployed Faith. Thank you, Rosann, for the opportunity to share my heart with your readers.

I am the wife of a man who has been unemployed more often than not over the last 4 years. I wish I could say it hasn't changed me. But it has. I wish I could say that I've always kept the faith. But there were times when I had lost my hope. I wish I could say that I am more prepared for "the next time" should it happen again. But I am still learning to walk this long, and often lonely road.

I don't ...

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Getting Over the Embarrassment: Food Stamps and a Trip to the Food Bank

Getting Over the Embarrassment: Food Stamps and a Trip to the Food Bank

Welcome to Week 3 of Ask Dr. McCale!

If you're just joining us for the first time, this is a 6-Week series on the hard realities of unemployment.  Our expert, Dr. McCale, recently published the book Waiting for Change: Impacts on life, family, work, and the new 99% reality. She also knows firsthand the anxiety that goes with being unemployed.

Here are the posts from this series, you may have missed so far:

Think It Won't Happen To You?

The Inspiration Behind Waiting For Change

As a reminder, Ask Dr. McCale, will be posted every Friday through August 3rd.

 

If you haven't already, be sure to subscribe via RSS or Email (look in the sidebar) so you won't miss a single post. 

 

 Q:  In your book, you mention facing the embarrassment of having to  apply for food stamps and going  to a local food bank. 

What would you say to readers who are about to face similar, yet necessary steps in their season ...

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Waiting For Change

Waiting For Change

I was recently contacted by Christina McCale, Author of Waiting for Change: Impacts on life, family, work, and the new 99% reality, for an opportunity to read and write a review of her book.

What a fascinating and wonderful book!

In Waiting For Change, Christina shares the story and impact of unemployment in our current recession, while also reflecting back to our own U.S. history with The Great Depression of the 1930's.

Honestly, my favorite part of her book is not in the historical facts or the well researched statistics, although I know many would find those added elements to be quite interesting.

No.  What I loved most, was reading her very personal story.  I could just feel (or perhaps relate with) the raw emotion as her story unfolded.

For many of us whose lives have been severely altered by the recession and unemployment, knowing we aren't alone in our devastation somehow helps us cope through it.  Even though the unemployment numbers scream out that millions are unemployed, with our daily challenge to put food ...

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