Encouragement

What Life After Unemployment Looks and Feels Like

What Life After Unemployment Looks and Feels Like

It had been three years.

Three years!

Three years without any income at all -- well, except for those initial weeks of unemployment wages, which we were grateful for, but compared to the amount of debt we had and the cost of keeping a roof over our heads and our family fed, was barely a drop in the bucket of what we needed to survive.

So we burned through our savings account and every dime of our retirement plans.

Our financial position had gone from six-figure salary wealth to that of two kids straight out of high school with zero assets, when my husband finally got that long overdue phone call with an employment offer.

We rejoiced and thanked God for carrying us, for keeping our credit intact, and for keeping our marriage and our family together and stronger than ever.

Finally, our victory had come!

The thing is, life after unemployment is never quite the same as it was before unemployment.

In many ways, it's better!

Rebuilding is a slow and sometimes painful process.

Even though there's income ...

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Unemployment: Her Point of View

Unemployment: Her Point of View

Recently, I shared the man's point of view when it comes to being unemployed. In this post, I want to share how the wife of an unemployed man feels when she's trying so hard to keep it all together.

Unemployment isn't just something that impacts the man of the house. It definitely takes a toll on the family, particularly the woman of the home.

Guys, if you're out of work and have stumbled across this post, my hope is that you'll have a better understanding for why your wife is behaving the way she does. It might be a good time to have a heart to heart with her and offer some reassurance because fear and uncertainty are the two greatest factors that fuel how she's feeling.

Unemployment: Her Point of View

  • She feels afraid. Afraid of not having enough money for groceries to feed the kids. Afraid of not having enough money to pay the mortgage. Afraid of not having enough money to keep the lights on.
  • She feels deeply concerned for ...
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Explaining Your Unemployment Situation to Your Children

Explaining Your Unemployment Situation to Your Children

Maybe a job layoff just happened in your home, or maybe it's been a long road of frustration and heartache. Either way, at some point there should be discussion with your children about what's going on.

When my husband first found himself standing in the unemployment line, our girls were only about 1 and 4 years old. Given their age, we didn't really feel they'd get it, and we honestly didn't expect unemployment to go on and on and on for a total of three years. So we didn't talk to them about our situation.

Life went on day in and day out as normal. What they saw was daddy home every day. When my oldest asked what daddy's work was, we told her he was self-employed. It wasn't a lie. He had been working toward getting a home business up and running while also looking for work elsewhere. (We shared with her what had happened once he was back to work, because that caused confusion as well.)

We did have to explain the situation to my stepdaughter though. The ...

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What God Taught Us Through Job Loss

What God Taught Us Through Job Loss

Please welcome guest contributor, KM Logan of KMLogan.com, as she shares what God taught her and her husband through job loss.

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There are a few moments in life that I would classify as “freak out” moments. Finding out my husband had lost his job was definitely one of them.

It was just a few months after we had gotten married, we were both settling into our new jobs, and we were both settling into our roles as husband and wife. That’s when I got the phone call.

I was happily answering phones and helping customers at the music store where I worked. Then I saw my husband’s cell phone number on the stores caller ID. Odd, he should be at work, I thought.

“Honey I have some bad news.” Now I realize my husband wanted to tell me this “bad news” right away, but had he realized how badly it was about to make me FREAK out he probably would have waited until my shift was over. We’ll just chalk it up to being ...

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You’re Not Alone in Your Unemployment Fears

You’re Not Alone in Your Unemployment Fears

Every once in a while I have the honor of sharing real life experiences with you from the readers of UnEmployed Faith and from those who are part of the UnEmployed Faith Community.

The following guest post is from a sweet blogger friend who is living the anxiety of unemployment in her home right now.  I'm so grateful for her willingness to share her heart here.  I pray her words will bless you and everyone else who stumbles across this space.

Please welcome my friend Dawn, as she writes about the fact that you're not alone in your unemployment fears.

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Unemployment.

The very mention of the word can put a seed of fear into your heart, especially if life has taken you through joblessness in the past.

Our family is currently traveling that unemployed road for the second time during our marriage. I know very well the fear of the unknown and the uncertainty of the future.

Three years ...

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Keeping the Peace While Living With Your In-Laws

Keeping the Peace While Living With Your In-Laws

From time to time I have the honor of sharing real life experiences with you from the readers of UnEmployed Faith and from those who are a part of the UnEmployed Faith Community.

The following guest post is just that. Real life. Written from a real person. Not a writer. Not a blogger. But a beautiful wife of a man who was unemployed. They have recently been blessed with a new beginning and new job!

Please welcome my dear friend, Elaine, as she shares her heart with you on keeping the peace while living with your in-laws. ...

“You’re crazy!”

“This won’t work!”

“They don’t like me!”

You may or may not speak these very words during unemployment or financial hardship if the subject of moving in with your in-laws ever comes up.

When we moved in with my in-laws it was rushed and not planned out. I don’t recommend moving in this way.

We had been having problems with our living situation and needed a place to go. My in-laws had ...

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Help Build Your Husband’s Confidence

Help Build Your Husband’s Confidence

"I personally feel that being the wife to an unemployed man means we need to do our part to show love in tangible ways, to be his best friend in the storm, to try lifting his spirits when we can, and to help boost his self esteem."                                               ~ Rosann Cunningham, UnEmployed Faith

Your husband lost his job.  He's having trouble finding another one.

A man's identity is wrapped up in what he does for a living and how well he provides for his family.

Right now, he's failing in both job and ability to provide.

Worse...nobody wants him.  He's not even getting phone calls for an interview.

So he escapes into his mental man-cave because it's the only way he can deal with the pressure and negative self-talk.

Consequently, you look at him and think he's not even trying to get a job. You see him playing video games or surfing the internet ...

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How to Love Your Husband Through Unemployment

How to Love Your Husband Through Unemployment

For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.  So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.  

~ 2 Corinthians 4:17-18

Experiencing trouble in life is not a new concept only relevant to our world today.  Pick up a Bible and read it for any length of time.  You're sure to see there are numerous stories of trial and tribulation throughout the pages of God's word.

God loves us, there's no doubt about it.  But He doesn't promise us a life that's always smooth and easy going.

If you've followed my writings at all, you already know my husband and I have endured many major life trials over the past decade.  All of which could have easily destroyed our marriage if we hadn't been vigilant in not letting that happen.

Most recently, he was unemployed for a very long, grueling three ...

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Do Not Grow Weary or Lose Heart

Do Not Grow Weary or Lose Heart

Suffering.

We all go through it at some time in our life.  For some of us, it happens more often than we'd prefer.

At a recent church event, I stood in front of a crowd of  women and shared my testimony.  My husband and I have been through an awful lot of trials over the past 13 or so years.  I knew it was a lot, but it wasn't until I stood there painting a picture of all of that emotion that it hit me just how much suffering we were, for whatever reason, chosen to endure.

In the midst of each trial, I know I struggled.  I know I spent a lot of time focusing on our problems and all of the what-ifs rushing through my fear-filled mind.

What I'm bothered by now as I'm looking back, is even though I knew in my heart God would protect us, provide for us, show us His miracles, and give us victory, I still spent far too much time meditating on my fears.

Instead, I should have been looking up at ...

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Finding Joy In The Storm

Finding Joy In The Storm

Be joyful always. Pray continuously.  Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.

~1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

Recently, a child whom I had agreed to babysit for a few minutes before school, wandered through my home, quietly checking things out.

Having never been in our house and not knowing very much about us, she took notice of the full toy box in our family room, asked where the bathroom was, and seemed to hover around wherever I was. In the kitchen, she said "you have such a pretty house.  I love your kitchen."

My response was an embarrassed chuckle followed by, "thank you, but I don't really like the wallpaper…or the flooring…or this house." 

Then in the hallway, she said "I really like your house.  It's so big.  And you have a huge TV!"   I thought to myself that she should have seen the house I used to live in, which was gorgeous and enormous in comparison to this one.