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How to Love Your Husband Through Unemployment

How to Love Your Husband Through Unemployment

For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.  So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.  

~ 2 Corinthians 4:17-18

Experiencing trouble in life is not a new concept only relevant to our world today.  Pick up a Bible and read it for any length of time.  You're sure to see there are numerous stories of trial and tribulation throughout the pages of God's word.

God loves us, there's no doubt about it.  But He doesn't promise us a life that's always smooth and easy going.

If you've followed my writings at all, you already know my husband and I have endured many major life trials over the past decade.  All of which could have easily destroyed our marriage if we hadn't been vigilant in not letting that happen.

Most recently, he was unemployed for a very long, grueling three ...

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How To Fight Unemployment Related Depression

How To Fight Unemployment Related Depression

The news recently reported that 23 million Americans are currently unemployed or underemployed.  23 million people!!  Think about that number for a moment.  What's the population of the state you reside in?

Let me give you a quick population picture from the US Census Bureau (as of 2011), for you to compare that number to:

  • Pennsylvania - 12.7 million
  • Oregon - 3.8 million
  • Oklahoma - 3.7 million
  • Illinois - 12.8 million
  • Texas - 25.6 million
  • California - 37.6 million
  • New York - 19.4 million
  • Colorado - 5.1 million
  • Nevada - 2.7 million
  • Florida - 19 million

Are you in shock?  I am!  How many states listed above could add up to 23 million people out of work?  Look at the big states.  Nearly the entire state of Texas could fit the bill of 23 million unemployed.  Scary stuff!

If you or your spouse happen to be one of those 23 million Americans, please know my heart goes out to you, I'm praying for you, and I do understand what you're going through.

About 4 months ...

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Open Your Mind to New Possibilities

Open Your Mind to New Possibilities

It's disheartening when old dreams die and we're left holding the broken pieces with no certainty for what the future may hold.  Still, we should approach new dreams and ideas with an open mind and willing heart.

I've always been a big dreamer.

My entire childhood I longed to escape the tiny town where we lived.  It felt suffocating and the people seemed small minded.  I had big dreams for myself.  One day I would finally graduate and move to Nevada where I'd attend UNLV for a degree in hotel/restaurant management.  Then I'd build the biggest hotel and casino the strip had ever seen.  At no time did I ever stop and ask God, "is this your plan for me?"

Not God's Plan?

Hmmm... Perhaps not.

Instead, I got married and joined the military straight out of high school.  That marriage soon ended in divorce and I found myself underwriting sub-prime auto loans for a living.  Which led me to meet and fall in love with my wonderful husband, which led to the blessing of our children.

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3 Reasons Not To Give Up

You're out of work.

Unemployed.

Laid off.

Again!

This is one of those days when you feel defeated, backed into a corner, and too weak to fight back.   The embarrassment of being without a job is more than you can deal with anymore.  You feel like you've let down your wife and your children.   And you feel like society looks down on you for not being a better provider.

The words "I give up" burn through your heart and sting your brain.

Don't give up! 

God Commands You To Be The Leader Of Your Home

In the book of Ephesians, Paul teaches about submission.  In a marriage, both husband and wife are called to submit to the other.  For the wife, this means willingly following her husband's leadership over the family.  For the husband, this means putting aside his own interests (and in this case, feelings) to care for the needs of his wife and his children.

You see, your wife is looking to you to lead the family.  The fact that our economy is in shambles ...

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Don’t Let Money Worries Keep You From Being The Best Mom Possible

Don’t Let Money Worries Keep You From Being The Best Mom Possible

My daughter has just placed "a magic crown" on my head that she says will turn me into a princess.  Yes, as I type this note of encouragement to you, I'm wearing Cinderella's crown…and exercise clothes.  It's precious moments like these that remind me of the blessing of being a mom.

Even while my husband was jobless, I was blessed to be a stay at home mom, a role I have always taken very seriously.

Sadly, the stress of not having a lot of money to come and go on, trying to keep my husband from falling into a deeper depression, and worrying about whether or not he would ever work again, consumed my mind and led to some not so proud parenting moments.

I lacked patience and would easily snap at the girls or break into a ball of tears which was something my then 2 year old and 5 year old didn't need to be confused by.  I struggled to smile or laugh with my daughters, too.  Most days, I simply went through the motions ...

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God, why aren’t you listening?

God, why aren’t you listening?

When my husband was unemployed, one of the most difficult parts of our journey was the wait.  We both knew God had our situation under control, but it was waiting for His plan to unfold that drove us emotionally crazy.

"God, why aren't you listening?"

It was a frequent question in my mind.  There were days I thought my husband would never find a job.  Even though he was applying and interviewing, with each let down and negative response from a perspective employer, his self-esteem dropped lower and lower.

So not only was I dealing with my worries and fears over our financial situation, but I also had to figure out a way to pull the love of my life out of his unemployment depression.

It was such a heavy and lonely burden.

I remember going to my weekly Bible study meeting with other moms and everyone would go around the room talking about their praises and prayer needs.

Honestly, I felt like my problem was so much more difficult than any problems the other moms had to face.  (it ...

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Reclaiming Your Spirit of Power When All Feels Lost

Reclaiming Your Spirit of Power When All Feels Lost

It's not very often we, as wives and moms, get the opportunity to receive sound advice or life encouragement from someone who really knows what they're talking about.  You know...from a professional.  Someone who knows, because they've been trained specifically on how to inspire and encourage us.

Well, today I'm very excited to introduce you to my good friend, Sharon Larson, of SharonTogether.com.  Sharon is a life coach whose mission is to help her clients discover how to be their best.   She knows just how to inspire you to be all God created you to be.

Beautiful.     Worthy.      Extraordinary.

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Statistics don’t ever make us feel better. Sure, it’s nice to know that you don’t stand alone in the unemployed list. 13.1 million U.S. citizens can join you. More than forty-two percent of those who are jobless have been so for over twenty-seven weeks. But it doesn’t really help to know this, does it?

To you, this is real life. It’s devastating. It’s heartbreaking, dream demising, budget altering, image compromising, fear inducing, and downright scary. Like ...

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Being My Husband’s Help Meet

Being My Husband’s Help Meet

The Lord said, "It is not good for the man to be alone.  I will make a helper suitable for him."

~Genesis 2:18

My husband starts his new job tomorrow.  Excitement and nervousness all mixed up into one giant mug of emotion brews quietly within him.  We are thrilled about this blessing from God.   It's a long awaited answer to prayer.

However, with it comes change.   And change can sometimes be uncomfortable to maneuver through.

What Does This Change Mean For My Husband?

For my husband, this change means he will be forced back into a normal sleep/wake schedule.  No more staying up all night worrying or dozing in front of the TV.  He's actually going to have to go to bed at night and get up early each morning.

He's also going to have the adjustment of getting his mind back into work mode, as well as being out among other adults all day, every day.   You'd think this would be easy to adjust to, but he's stared at my face ...

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Has God Refined You?

Has God Refined You?

If you follow my other blog, ChristianSuperMom, you may already know that after three years of enduring the life trial of unemployment, and only days after publishing my book UnEMPLOYED Faith, God has answered our prayers and provided a great job for my husband.

The Author of our life has indeed been glorified!

The heavy weight of this life crisis we've had to deal with day in and day out, has finally been lifted from our shoulders.  The funny thing is (if you can call our suffering funny) we actually didn't realize how much dealing with unemployment was weighing us down until it was no longer an issue.  Sure, we knew it was difficult and stressful, but we didn't fully comprehend just how much we were enduring.

A confirmed sign that God carried most of the burden for us.

The past few days I've noticed how much deeper I breathe and how unbelievably relaxed I feel.  Was I really that uptight before?  I've actually made it three whole days without yelling at my kids for ...

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