Reclaiming Your Spirit of Power When All Feels Lost

A Guest Post

It's not very often we, as wives and moms, get the opportunity to receive sound advice or life encouragement from someone who really knows what they're talking about.  You know...from a professional.  Someone who knows, because they've been trained specifically on how to inspire and encourage us.

Well, today I'm very excited to introduce you to my good friend, Sharon Larson, of SharonTogether.com.  Sharon is a life coach whose mission is to help her clients discover how to be their best.   She knows just how to inspire you to be all God created you to be.

Beautiful.     Worthy.      Extraordinary.

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Statistics don’t ever make us feel better. Sure, it’s nice to know that you don’t stand alone in the unemployed list. 13.1 million U.S. citizens can join you. More than forty-two percent of those who are jobless have been so for over twenty-seven weeks. But it doesn’t really help to know this, does it?

To you, this is real life. It’s devastating. It’s heartbreaking, dream demising, budget altering, image compromising, fear inducing, and downright scary. Like a magic trick gone bad, a job can look you straight in the eyes for many years and then holler, “Now you see me; now you don’t.” And there you sit, uncertain of the next step. Welcome to starting over. It’s terrifying, to say the least.

I would like to ask you a question. (As a woman’s life coach, I’ve received extra-special, top-secret, fear-conquering training on how to ask questions that make you cringe and move forward at the same time.) Here it is. Ready?

 

What thoughts are you allowing into your mind?

            

Maybe this visualization will help you with your answer. Picture yourself standing in front of a huge all-you-can eat buffet. There’s everything from crab legs to sprinkles for your ice cream. You have access to unlimited food and unlimited plates to carry the food back to your table. Being the well-educated person you are, you know better than to grab everything that is offered to you. You pick and choose those foods which you like and the ones that are good for you.

Just like the food at the buffet, countless thoughts form a line of plentiful options each second of our day. For some reason, however, we tend to forget that when it comes to our thoughts, we have choices in the matter.  We allow every little thought to permeate our mind, control our emotions, and dictate our actions. Our passivity to our thoughts is no different than holding out our empty food plate and consuming everything that is put in front of us.

And we wonder why we feel sick! We wonder why we have no energy left! We wonder why we are bitter at life, resentful of good news, unhappy with ourselves, accusatory towards companies, impatient with loved ones, unkind towards our friends, jealous of others, and utterly miserable with the situation at hand.

I challenge you today to be mindFUL rather than mindLESS. Be choosey! You were born with the right and the ability to decide what thoughts you will allow into your life! Just say “no” to the fleeting thoughts that cause you to wonder if your spouse did something wrong to deserve this unemployment status. Say “no” to the suggestion that you will never find a job. Say “no” to those worst-case-scenarios that paralyze you into doing nothing. Say “no” to the glances and snap judgments made by others.

Instead, say “yes” to taking that next step. Say “yes” to knowing that you are strong enough to get back on stable ground. Say “yes” to loving the person who is now in need of a job. Say “yes” to understanding that other people’s assumptions are neither valid nor important.

I have a guiding scripture for my life and my coaching practice. It reminds me that God has supplied us, at the moment of our creation, with an innate can-do attitude.

            For God has not given us the spirit of fear;

 but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

2 Timothy 1:7

 

Did you catch that? God has NOT given you the spirit of fear. It’s not a natural state for you to be in, so he didn’t equip you with it. He has better gifts in store for you.

The power we have to get back on our feet comes from God, but it is our responsibility to actually use that power in a way that glorifies Him. We are not glorifying him when we  fill our minds with garbage.   The love we have for others during difficult times is also a God-given tool we have to utilize. It’s hard to do, yes, but it’s also very necessary if we want to move forward. God also gave to us a spirit of sound mind. It’s up to you to keep it that way, despite the many offerings of negativity that come your way at this time.

Protect that spirit God planted in you, my friend - the spirit of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

 

 

If you think Sharon is the type of person who had enough guts to turn life around and own it, than you're right. Sharon and her husband, along with their three kids, took a step away from a life full of "shoulds" and took a giant leap into the unknown for a chance to live the "good life." Surrounded by beauty and inspiration on her Iowa hobby farm, Sharon, a women's life coach at SharonTOGETHER, leads seminars, group discussions, and one-on-one coaching sessions to help women rediscover the joy in their lives   http://www.sharontogether.com/