Loving Your Husband

Unemployment: Her Point of View

Unemployment: Her Point of View

Recently, I shared the man's point of view when it comes to being unemployed. In this post, I want to share how the wife of an unemployed man feels when she's trying so hard to keep it all together.

Unemployment isn't just something that impacts the man of the house. It definitely takes a toll on the family, particularly the woman of the home.

Guys, if you're out of work and have stumbled across this post, my hope is that you'll have a better understanding for why your wife is behaving the way she does. It might be a good time to have a heart to heart with her and offer some reassurance because fear and uncertainty are the two greatest factors that fuel how she's feeling.

Unemployment: Her Point of View

  • She feels afraid. Afraid of not having enough money for groceries to feed the kids. Afraid of not having enough money to pay the mortgage. Afraid of not having enough money to keep the lights on.
  • She feels deeply concerned for ...
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Unemployment: His Point of View

Unemployment: His Point of View

I saw a recent report from the Bureau of Labor Statistics indicating there are still more than 19 million Americans either unemployed or underemployed. That's a whole lot of financial hardship happening out there.

From a family perspective, when hubby or dad is out of work it can cause him to struggle through so many feelings and negative self-thoughts. Sometimes the best way to be supportive is to first think about and try to understand his point of view.

Unemployment: His Point of View 

  • He feels like a he's let down his wife and kids.
  • He feels like he somehow failed to remain valuable enough at work to prevent his job loss.
  • He feels like he's not being a good provider.
  • He feels like he's no longer deserving of respect, and when his wife confirms those feelings through her words and actions, he feels completely unloved.
  • He feels the weight of the world on his shoulders.
  • He feels helpless.
  • He feels alone and desperate.
  • He feels a cycle of anger and depression starting to consume him, especially when prospective ...
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Keeping the Peace While Living With Your In-Laws

Keeping the Peace While Living With Your In-Laws

From time to time I have the honor of sharing real life experiences with you from the readers of UnEmployed Faith and from those who are a part of the UnEmployed Faith Community.

The following guest post is just that. Real life. Written from a real person. Not a writer. Not a blogger. But a beautiful wife of a man who was unemployed. They have recently been blessed with a new beginning and new job!

Please welcome my dear friend, Elaine, as she shares her heart with you on keeping the peace while living with your in-laws. ...

“You’re crazy!”

“This won’t work!”

“They don’t like me!”

You may or may not speak these very words during unemployment or financial hardship if the subject of moving in with your in-laws ever comes up.

When we moved in with my in-laws it was rushed and not planned out. I don’t recommend moving in this way.

We had been having problems with our living situation and needed a place to go. My in-laws had ...

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Help Build Your Husband’s Confidence

Help Build Your Husband’s Confidence

"I personally feel that being the wife to an unemployed man means we need to do our part to show love in tangible ways, to be his best friend in the storm, to try lifting his spirits when we can, and to help boost his self esteem."                                               ~ Rosann Cunningham, UnEmployed Faith

Your husband lost his job.  He's having trouble finding another one.

A man's identity is wrapped up in what he does for a living and how well he provides for his family.

Right now, he's failing in both job and ability to provide.

Worse...nobody wants him.  He's not even getting phone calls for an interview.

So he escapes into his mental man-cave because it's the only way he can deal with the pressure and negative self-talk.

Consequently, you look at him and think he's not even trying to get a job. You see him playing video games or surfing the internet ...

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How to Love Your Husband Through Unemployment

How to Love Your Husband Through Unemployment

For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.  So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.  

~ 2 Corinthians 4:17-18

Experiencing trouble in life is not a new concept only relevant to our world today.  Pick up a Bible and read it for any length of time.  You're sure to see there are numerous stories of trial and tribulation throughout the pages of God's word.

God loves us, there's no doubt about it.  But He doesn't promise us a life that's always smooth and easy going.

If you've followed my writings at all, you already know my husband and I have endured many major life trials over the past decade.  All of which could have easily destroyed our marriage if we hadn't been vigilant in not letting that happen.

Most recently, he was unemployed for a very long, grueling three ...

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When Your Loved One Is Struggling to Cope With the Loss of Employment

When Your Loved One Is Struggling to Cope With the Loss of Employment

Here it is!  The final week in the Ask Dr. McCale series.  I hope you've enjoyed reading.   I know it's been an honor to have Dr. McCale here as a guest the past 6 weeks.   Thank you, Christina! 

If you haven't checked out her book yet, click on the image for more details.

Also, if you missed any of the previous posts from this series, here are the links for your reading enjoyment:

Think It Won't Happen To You?

The Inspiration Behind Waiting For Change

Getting Over the Embarrassment:  Food Stamps and a Trip to the Food Bank

Making Big Decisions After a Layoff

Coping With Unemployment:  A Mother's Perspective

 

Q:  With 23 million Americans out of work right now, it seems the emotional impact of unemployment would be more readily ...

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What I’ve Learned From My Husband’s Unemployment

Unemployment has impacted the lives of so many beautiful friends that I'm privileged to know or have met along the journey.  Today, I want to share with you the heart of my dear friend, Barbie of My Freshly Brewed Life.   She is simply amazing.   After reading about what she's learned from her husband's unemployment, be sure to click over and check out her fantastic blog.

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Today I am honored to be sharing here at Unemployed Faith. Thank you, Rosann, for the opportunity to share my heart with your readers.

I am the wife of a man who has been unemployed more often than not over the last 4 years. I wish I could say it hasn't changed me. But it has. I wish I could say that I've always kept the faith. But there were times when I had lost my hope. I wish I could say that I am more prepared for "the next time" should it happen again. But I am still learning to walk this long, and often ...

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How NOT To Lose Sleep When You’re Stressed About Money

How NOT To Lose Sleep When You’re Stressed About Money

The light from the digits on your nightstand clock blare against your weary eyes.  Images of an eviction notice, piled-high envelopes stuffed with past due nasty grams, and thoughts of living in your car bounce chaotically through your mind.

You roll over to feel the warmth of your husband, but he's not there.  He can't sleep either.  Depression is taking hold of him.

Not helping matters is knowing you'll both enter the new day filled with anxiety, moodiness, headaches, reduced energy, and an inability to concentrate on any one thing for more than a few minutes.

If only the both of you could get a few restful nights of sleep.  Maybe…maybe then you'd be able to think clearly on how to approach the horror of unemployment.

Do You Suffer From Insomnia?

Studies show insomnia to be a common complaint among men and women, particularly those dealing with stress of unemployment or low income.  It's not healthy either.   If you don't resolve the problem soon, it can lead to serious health problems.

And let's face it, you have enough ...

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How To Fight Unemployment Related Depression

How To Fight Unemployment Related Depression

The news recently reported that 23 million Americans are currently unemployed or underemployed.  23 million people!!  Think about that number for a moment.  What's the population of the state you reside in?

Let me give you a quick population picture from the US Census Bureau (as of 2011), for you to compare that number to:

  • Pennsylvania - 12.7 million
  • Oregon - 3.8 million
  • Oklahoma - 3.7 million
  • Illinois - 12.8 million
  • Texas - 25.6 million
  • California - 37.6 million
  • New York - 19.4 million
  • Colorado - 5.1 million
  • Nevada - 2.7 million
  • Florida - 19 million

Are you in shock?  I am!  How many states listed above could add up to 23 million people out of work?  Look at the big states.  Nearly the entire state of Texas could fit the bill of 23 million unemployed.  Scary stuff!

If you or your spouse happen to be one of those 23 million Americans, please know my heart goes out to you, I'm praying for you, and I do understand what you're going through.

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In Awe Of What God Is Doing

Friends, God has been stirring me up a lot lately.  He's working in amazing ways with the mission of this website and with my book.  There have been many days recently where I've literally sat in awe at His hand over this ministry.   Only God!   This plan of His was so much greater than any idea I could have ever come up with on my own.

Here are a few God things I want to share with you:

Praying Him Through Unemployment - 6 Week Prayer Guide

I recently felt led by God to create this FREE downloadable resource for you.  There isn't much we, as wives, can do for our husbands when they are dealing with the emotional turmoil of being out of work.  We can't get them a job.  We can't pull them out of a deep depression.  We can't make them feel worthy.

But - we can pray for them.  And prayer is so so powerful.  I've put together this 6 week guide so it's easy for you to ...

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