Loving Your Family

Unemployment: His Point of View

Unemployment: His Point of View

I saw a recent report from the Bureau of Labor Statistics indicating there are still more than 19 million Americans either unemployed or underemployed. That's a whole lot of financial hardship happening out there.

From a family perspective, when hubby or dad is out of work it can cause him to struggle through so many feelings and negative self-thoughts. Sometimes the best way to be supportive is to first think about and try to understand his point of view.

Unemployment: His Point of View 

  • He feels like a he's let down his wife and kids.
  • He feels like he somehow failed to remain valuable enough at work to prevent his job loss.
  • He feels like he's not being a good provider.
  • He feels like he's no longer deserving of respect, and when his wife confirms those feelings through her words and actions, he feels completely unloved.
  • He feels the weight of the world on his shoulders.
  • He feels helpless.
  • He feels alone and desperate.
  • He feels a cycle of anger and depression starting to consume him, especially when prospective ...
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Explaining Your Unemployment Situation to Your Children

Explaining Your Unemployment Situation to Your Children

Maybe a job layoff just happened in your home, or maybe it's been a long road of frustration and heartache. Either way, at some point there should be discussion with your children about what's going on.

When my husband first found himself standing in the unemployment line, our girls were only about 1 and 4 years old. Given their age, we didn't really feel they'd get it, and we honestly didn't expect unemployment to go on and on and on for a total of three years. So we didn't talk to them about our situation.

Life went on day in and day out as normal. What they saw was daddy home every day. When my oldest asked what daddy's work was, we told her he was self-employed. It wasn't a lie. He had been working toward getting a home business up and running while also looking for work elsewhere. (We shared with her what had happened once he was back to work, because that caused confusion as well.)

We did have to explain the situation to my stepdaughter though. The ...

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Keeping the Peace While Living With Your In-Laws

Keeping the Peace While Living With Your In-Laws

From time to time I have the honor of sharing real life experiences with you from the readers of UnEmployed Faith and from those who are a part of the UnEmployed Faith Community.

The following guest post is just that. Real life. Written from a real person. Not a writer. Not a blogger. But a beautiful wife of a man who was unemployed. They have recently been blessed with a new beginning and new job!

Please welcome my dear friend, Elaine, as she shares her heart with you on keeping the peace while living with your in-laws. ...

“You’re crazy!”

“This won’t work!”

“They don’t like me!”

You may or may not speak these very words during unemployment or financial hardship if the subject of moving in with your in-laws ever comes up.

When we moved in with my in-laws it was rushed and not planned out. I don’t recommend moving in this way.

We had been having problems with our living situation and needed a place to go. My in-laws had suggested the move.  So ...

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When Your Loved One Is Struggling to Cope With the Loss of Employment

When Your Loved One Is Struggling to Cope With the Loss of Employment

Here it is!  The final week in the Ask Dr. McCale series.  I hope you've enjoyed reading.   I know it's been an honor to have Dr. McCale here as a guest the past 6 weeks.   Thank you, Christina! 

If you haven't checked out her book yet, click on the image for more details.

Also, if you missed any of the previous posts from this series, here are the links for your reading enjoyment:

Think It Won't Happen To You?

The Inspiration Behind Waiting For Change

Getting Over the Embarrassment:  Food Stamps and a Trip to the Food Bank

Making Big Decisions After a Layoff

Coping With Unemployment:  A Mother's Perspective

 

Q:  With 23 million Americans out of work right now, it seems the emotional impact of unemployment would be more readily understood among social circles of family and friends.   

What advice would you give someone whose loved one is having a difficult time coping with the loss of employment and income? 

I think the problem they face ...

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What I’ve Learned From My Husband’s Unemployment

Unemployment has impacted the lives of so many beautiful friends that I'm privileged to know or have met along the journey.  Today, I want to share with you the heart of my dear friend, Barbie of My Freshly Brewed Life.   She is simply amazing.   After reading about what she's learned from her husband's unemployment, be sure to click over and check out her fantastic blog.

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Today I am honored to be sharing here at Unemployed Faith. Thank you, Rosann, for the opportunity to share my heart with your readers.

I am the wife of a man who has been unemployed more often than not over the last 4 years. I wish I could say it hasn't changed me. But it has. I wish I could say that I've always kept the faith. But there were times when I had lost my hope. I wish I could say that I am more prepared for "the next time" should it happen again. But I am still learning to walk this long, and often lonely road.

I don't ...

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Coping With Unemployment: A Mother’s Perspective

Coping With Unemployment:  A Mother’s Perspective

Welcome to week 5 of 6 in the Ask Dr. McCale series.  Dr. Christina McCale is the Author of the book Waiting for Change: Impacts on life, family, work, and the new 99% reality.   A single mom facing an unemployment crisis of her own in these tough economic times, she knows the reality of joblessness all too well.

If you're just joining us, here's what we've discussed so far:

Think It Won't Happen To You?

The Inspiration Behind Waiting For Change

Getting Over The Embarrassment:  Food Stamps and a Trip to the Food Bank

Making Big Decisions After a Layoff

If you haven't already, be sure to subscribe via RSS or Email (look in the sidebar) so you won't miss a single post.

 

Q:  From a mother's role and perspective, what would you view as being the most difficult aspect of unemployment?    What has helped you cope through those difficulties? 

Certainly as parents we all want to ...

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How NOT To Lose Sleep When You’re Stressed About Money

How NOT To Lose Sleep When You’re Stressed About Money

The light from the digits on your nightstand clock blare against your weary eyes.  Images of an eviction notice, piled-high envelopes stuffed with past due nasty grams, and thoughts of living in your car bounce chaotically through your mind.

You roll over to feel the warmth of your husband, but he's not there.  He can't sleep either.  Depression is taking hold of him.

Not helping matters is knowing you'll both enter the new day filled with anxiety, moodiness, headaches, reduced energy, and an inability to concentrate on any one thing for more than a few minutes.

If only the both of you could get a few restful nights of sleep.  Maybe…maybe then you'd be able to think clearly on how to approach the horror of unemployment.

Do You Suffer From Insomnia?

Studies show insomnia to be a common complaint among men and women, particularly those dealing with stress of unemployment or low income.  It's not healthy either.   If you don't resolve the problem soon, it can lead to serious health problems.

And let's face it, you have enough ...

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Getting Over the Embarrassment: Food Stamps and a Trip to the Food Bank

Getting Over the Embarrassment: Food Stamps and a Trip to the Food Bank

Welcome to Week 3 of Ask Dr. McCale!

If you're just joining us for the first time, this is a 6-Week series on the hard realities of unemployment.  Our expert, Dr. McCale, recently published the book Waiting for Change: Impacts on life, family, work, and the new 99% reality. She also knows firsthand the anxiety that goes with being unemployed.

Here are the posts from this series, you may have missed so far:

Think It Won't Happen To You?

The Inspiration Behind Waiting For Change

As a reminder, Ask Dr. McCale, will be posted every Friday through August 3rd.

 

If you haven't already, be sure to subscribe via RSS or Email (look in the sidebar) so you won't miss a single post. 

 

 Q:  In your book, you mention facing the embarrassment of having to  apply for food stamps and going  to a local food bank. 

What would you say to readers who are about to face similar, yet necessary steps in their season ...

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How To Fight Unemployment Related Depression

How To Fight Unemployment Related Depression

The news recently reported that 23 million Americans are currently unemployed or underemployed.  23 million people!!  Think about that number for a moment.  What's the population of the state you reside in?

Let me give you a quick population picture from the US Census Bureau (as of 2011), for you to compare that number to:

  • Pennsylvania - 12.7 million
  • Oregon - 3.8 million
  • Oklahoma - 3.7 million
  • Illinois - 12.8 million
  • Texas - 25.6 million
  • California - 37.6 million
  • New York - 19.4 million
  • Colorado - 5.1 million
  • Nevada - 2.7 million
  • Florida - 19 million

Are you in shock?  I am!  How many states listed above could add up to 23 million people out of work?  Look at the big states.  Nearly the entire state of Texas could fit the bill of 23 million unemployed.  Scary stuff!

If you or your spouse happen to be one of those 23 million Americans, please know my heart goes out to you, I'm praying for you, and I do understand what you're going through.

About 4 months ...

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Surviving The Unemployment Journey

I'm so excited to share this with you.  My first magazine mention!!

Woo Hoo!

Several years ago I wrote a special Father's Day tribute to my dad that I was lucky enough to have published in a local newspaper column. I always thought that was the coolest thing ever!

Then I wrote and self-published my first book, and that became the coolest thing ever.

Now, I'm getting a special mention in Women's Intuition Magazine. How cool is that?!  Sorry to go all valley girl on you, but I'm so giddy over this I feel like a teenager again!!  Ha!

Anyway, check it out!   Click on the expand button and it should bring it up close and personal for you to read the article, which by the way, is a really great article about surviving unemployment.  It was written by Ann Parmenter of Hope Springs Counseling.   I think you'll enjoy it.

 

   

     

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