For The Unemployed

Unemployment: Her Point of View

Unemployment: Her Point of View

Recently, I shared the man's point of view when it comes to being unemployed. In this post, I want to share how the wife of an unemployed man feels when she's trying so hard to keep it all together.

Unemployment isn't just something that impacts the man of the house. It definitely takes a toll on the family, particularly the woman of the home.

Guys, if you're out of work and have stumbled across this post, my hope is that you'll have a better understanding for why your wife is behaving the way she does. It might be a good time to have a heart to heart with her and offer some reassurance because fear and uncertainty are the two greatest factors that fuel how she's feeling.

Unemployment: Her Point of View

  • She feels afraid. Afraid of not having enough money for groceries to feed the kids. Afraid of not having enough money to pay the mortgage. Afraid of not having enough money to keep the lights on.
  • She feels deeply concerned for her husband. She knows ...
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Unemployment: His Point of View

Unemployment: His Point of View

I saw a recent report from the Bureau of Labor Statistics indicating there are still more than 19 million Americans either unemployed or underemployed. That's a whole lot of financial hardship happening out there.

From a family perspective, when hubby or dad is out of work it can cause him to struggle through so many feelings and negative self-thoughts. Sometimes the best way to be supportive is to first think about and try to understand his point of view.

Unemployment: His Point of View 

  • He feels like a he's let down his wife and kids.
  • He feels like he somehow failed to remain valuable enough at work to prevent his job loss.
  • He feels like he's not being a good provider.
  • He feels like he's no longer deserving of respect, and when his wife confirms those feelings through her words and actions, he feels completely unloved.
  • He feels the weight of the world on his shoulders.
  • He feels helpless.
  • He feels alone and desperate.
  • He feels a cycle of anger and depression starting to consume him, especially when prospective ...
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Explaining Your Unemployment Situation to Your Children

Explaining Your Unemployment Situation to Your Children

Maybe a job layoff just happened in your home, or maybe it's been a long road of frustration and heartache. Either way, at some point there should be discussion with your children about what's going on.

When my husband first found himself standing in the unemployment line, our girls were only about 1 and 4 years old. Given their age, we didn't really feel they'd get it, and we honestly didn't expect unemployment to go on and on and on for a total of three years. So we didn't talk to them about our situation.

Life went on day in and day out as normal. What they saw was daddy home every day. When my oldest asked what daddy's work was, we told her he was self-employed. It wasn't a lie. He had been working toward getting a home business up and running while also looking for work elsewhere. (We shared with her what had happened once he was back to work, because that caused confusion as well.)

We did have to explain the situation to my stepdaughter though. The ...

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What God Taught Us Through Job Loss

What God Taught Us Through Job Loss

 

Please welcome guest contributor, KM Logan of KMLogan.com, as she shares what God taught her and her husband through job loss.

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There are a few moments in life that I would classify as “freak out” moments. Finding out my husband had lost his job was definitely one of them.

It was just a few months after we had gotten married, we were both settling into our new jobs, and we were both settling into our roles as husband and wife. That’s when I got the phone call.

I was happily answering phones and helping customers at the music store where I worked. Then I saw my husband’s cell phone number on the stores caller ID. Odd, he should be at work, I thought.

“Honey I have some bad news.” Now I realize my husband wanted to tell me this “bad news” right away, but had he realized how badly it was about to make me FREAK out he probably would have waited until my shift was over. We’ll just chalk it up to being new ...

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You’re Not Alone in Your Unemployment Fears

You’re Not Alone in Your Unemployment Fears

Every once in a while I have the honor of sharing real life experiences with you from the readers of UnEmployed Faith and from those who are part of the UnEmployed Faith Community.

The following guest post is from a sweet blogger friend who is living the anxiety of unemployment in her home right now.  I'm so grateful for her willingness to share her heart here.  I pray her words will bless you and everyone else who stumbles across this space.

Please welcome my friend Dawn, as she writes about the fact that you're not alone in your unemployment fears.

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Unemployment.

The very mention of the word can put a seed of fear into your heart, especially if life has taken you through joblessness in the past.

Our family is currently traveling that unemployed road for the second time during our marriage. I know very well the fear of the unknown and the uncertainty of the future.

Three years ago we had a healthy savings account, no debt and a good job.

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Keeping the Peace While Living With Your In-Laws

Keeping the Peace While Living With Your In-Laws

From time to time I have the honor of sharing real life experiences with you from the readers of UnEmployed Faith and from those who are a part of the UnEmployed Faith Community.

The following guest post is just that. Real life. Written from a real person. Not a writer. Not a blogger. But a beautiful wife of a man who was unemployed. They have recently been blessed with a new beginning and new job!

Please welcome my dear friend, Elaine, as she shares her heart with you on keeping the peace while living with your in-laws. ...

“You’re crazy!”

“This won’t work!”

“They don’t like me!”

You may or may not speak these very words during unemployment or financial hardship if the subject of moving in with your in-laws ever comes up.

When we moved in with my in-laws it was rushed and not planned out. I don’t recommend moving in this way.

We had been having problems with our living situation and needed a place to go. My in-laws had suggested the move.  So ...

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Do Not Grow Weary or Lose Heart

Do Not Grow Weary or Lose Heart

Suffering.

We all go through it at some time in our life.  For some of us, it happens more often than we'd prefer.

At a recent church event, I stood in front of a crowd of  women and shared my testimony.  My husband and I have been through an awful lot of trials over the past 13 or so years.  I knew it was a lot, but it wasn't until I stood there painting a picture of all of that emotion that it hit me just how much suffering we were, for whatever reason, chosen to endure.

In the midst of each trial, I know I struggled.  I know I spent a lot of time focusing on our problems and all of the what-ifs rushing through my fear-filled mind.

What I'm bothered by now as I'm looking back, is even though I knew in my heart God would protect us, provide for us, show us His miracles, and give us victory, I still spent far too much time meditating on my fears.

Instead, I should have been looking up at ...

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Finding Joy In The Storm

Finding Joy In The Storm

Be joyful always. Pray continuously.  Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.

~1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

Recently, a child whom I had agreed to babysit for a few minutes before school, wandered through my home, quietly checking things out.

Having never been in our house and not knowing very much about us, she took notice of the full toy box in our family room, asked where the bathroom was, and seemed to hover around wherever I was. In the kitchen, she said "you have such a pretty house.  I love your kitchen."

My response was an embarrassed chuckle followed by, "thank you, but I don't really like the wallpaper…or the flooring…or this house." 

Then in the hallway, she said "I really like your house.  It's so big.  And you have a huge TV!"   I thought to myself that she should have seen the house I used to live in, which was gorgeous and enormous in comparison to this one.

When Finding Inner Peace Seems Too Far Fetched

When was the last time you felt an unexplainable peace within?

It’s easy to become discouraged with life.

Everywhere we look, people are out of work, losing their homes, having financial difficulties, suffering depression, or are walking around with an endless grumpiness plastered across their face.  Maybe you're one of those people.

I struggle to watch the news anymore because the stories are so often horrifying.  Is this really what our world has become?

A world filled with judgement and hate?  Movie theater shootings?  Domestic violence?  Terrorist attacks?  Freedom of speech arguments over gay marriage?

How can anyone experience a sense of peace when our world is in such a state of dismay?

Friends, if you’re a believer, the Holy Spirit is inside of you and will grant you peace when you pray over it and spend time in the word of God.

When you ask in heartfelt prayer, the Holy Spirit will provide peace from a multitude of discouraging emotions and situations.

  • Peace from depression
  • Peace from fear
  • Peace from anxiety
  • Peace from resentment
  • Peace from doubt
  • Peace ...
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When Your Loved One Is Struggling to Cope With the Loss of Employment

When Your Loved One Is Struggling to Cope With the Loss of Employment

Here it is!  The final week in the Ask Dr. McCale series.  I hope you've enjoyed reading.   I know it's been an honor to have Dr. McCale here as a guest the past 6 weeks.   Thank you, Christina! 

If you haven't checked out her book yet, click on the image for more details.

Also, if you missed any of the previous posts from this series, here are the links for your reading enjoyment:

Think It Won't Happen To You?

The Inspiration Behind Waiting For Change

Getting Over the Embarrassment:  Food Stamps and a Trip to the Food Bank

Making Big Decisions After a Layoff

Coping With Unemployment:  A Mother's Perspective

 

Q:  With 23 million Americans out of work right now, it seems the emotional impact of unemployment would be more readily understood among social circles of family and friends.   

What advice would you give someone whose loved one is having a difficult time coping with the loss of employment and income? 

I think the problem they face ...

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