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What Life After Unemployment Looks and Feels Like

What Life After Unemployment Looks and Feels Like

It had been three years.

Three years!

Three years without any income at all -- well, except for those initial weeks of unemployment wages, which we were grateful for, but compared to the amount of debt we had and the cost of keeping a roof over our heads and our family fed, was barely a drop in the bucket of what we needed to survive.

So we burned through our savings account and every dime of our retirement plans.

Our financial position had gone from six-figure salary wealth to that of two kids straight out of high school with zero assets, when my husband finally got that long overdue phone call with an employment offer.

We rejoiced and thanked God for carrying us, for keeping our credit intact, and for keeping our marriage and our family together and stronger than ever.

Finally, our victory had come!

The thing is, life after unemployment is never quite the same as it was before unemployment.

In many ways, it's better!

Rebuilding is a slow and sometimes painful process.

Even though there's income ...

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Keeping the Peace While Living With Your In-Laws

Keeping the Peace While Living With Your In-Laws

From time to time I have the honor of sharing real life experiences with you from the readers of UnEmployed Faith and from those who are a part of the UnEmployed Faith Community.

The following guest post is just that. Real life. Written from a real person. Not a writer. Not a blogger. But a beautiful wife of a man who was unemployed. They have recently been blessed with a new beginning and new job!

Please welcome my dear friend, Elaine, as she shares her heart with you on keeping the peace while living with your in-laws. ...

“You’re crazy!”

“This won’t work!”

“They don’t like me!”

You may or may not speak these very words during unemployment or financial hardship if the subject of moving in with your in-laws ever comes up.

When we moved in with my in-laws it was rushed and not planned out. I don’t recommend moving in this way.

We had been having problems with our living situation and needed a place to go. My in-laws had suggested the move.  So ...

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How NOT To Lose Sleep When You’re Stressed About Money

How NOT To Lose Sleep When You’re Stressed About Money

The light from the digits on your nightstand clock blare against your weary eyes.  Images of an eviction notice, piled-high envelopes stuffed with past due nasty grams, and thoughts of living in your car bounce chaotically through your mind.

You roll over to feel the warmth of your husband, but he's not there.  He can't sleep either.  Depression is taking hold of him.

Not helping matters is knowing you'll both enter the new day filled with anxiety, moodiness, headaches, reduced energy, and an inability to concentrate on any one thing for more than a few minutes.

If only the both of you could get a few restful nights of sleep.  Maybe…maybe then you'd be able to think clearly on how to approach the horror of unemployment.

Do You Suffer From Insomnia?

Studies show insomnia to be a common complaint among men and women, particularly those dealing with stress of unemployment or low income.  It's not healthy either.   If you don't resolve the problem soon, it can lead to serious health problems.

And let's face it, you have enough ...

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Open Your Mind to New Possibilities

Open Your Mind to New Possibilities

It's disheartening when old dreams die and we're left holding the broken pieces with no certainty for what the future may hold.  Still, we should approach new dreams and ideas with an open mind and willing heart.

I've always been a big dreamer.

My entire childhood I longed to escape the tiny town where we lived.  It felt suffocating and the people seemed small minded.  I had big dreams for myself.  One day I would finally graduate and move to Nevada where I'd attend UNLV for a degree in hotel/restaurant management.  Then I'd build the biggest hotel and casino the strip had ever seen.  At no time did I ever stop and ask God, "is this your plan for me?"

Not God's Plan?

Hmmm... Perhaps not.

Instead, I got married and joined the military straight out of high school.  That marriage soon ended in divorce and I found myself underwriting sub-prime auto loans for a living.  Which led me to meet and fall in love with my wonderful husband, which led to the blessing of our children.

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Being My Husband’s Help Meet

Being My Husband’s Help Meet

The Lord said, "It is not good for the man to be alone.  I will make a helper suitable for him."

~Genesis 2:18

My husband starts his new job tomorrow.  Excitement and nervousness all mixed up into one giant mug of emotion brews quietly within him.  We are thrilled about this blessing from God.   It's a long awaited answer to prayer.

However, with it comes change.   And change can sometimes be uncomfortable to maneuver through.

What Does This Change Mean For My Husband?

For my husband, this change means he will be forced back into a normal sleep/wake schedule.  No more staying up all night worrying or dozing in front of the TV.  He's actually going to have to go to bed at night and get up early each morning.

He's also going to have the adjustment of getting his mind back into work mode, as well as being out among other adults all day, every day.   You'd think this would be easy to adjust to, but he's stared at my face ...

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